Moving On From A Bad Breakup

Love is in the air! — Or not? This time of year, it seems everyone is indulging in the season of love. Young, old, and in between, people everywhere are getting into relationships, finding that special one to call their own, and even getting married/proposed to! But what about those of us that are single? What about those of us that may have had a bad break up, or just recently been given the boot? If you fit any of those two categories, this post is for you.

Sometimes we get wrapped up in the essence of a person, and we forget that we are amazing all by ourselves, God is with us at all times so we are never alone, and one ending is not the end of the world. You see, as much as it may appear as if everyone around you is in love and you’re the only one missing out? That’s certainly not the case. There are plenty of people that are single and have been for different periods of time. The key to successfully getting through a breakup, is simply relying on God for restoration, and reminding yourself of who the heck you are!

Getting through a breakup is a lot like the grieving stage. You first have to deal with initial shock of it all, and then you have to process the emotions. Lastly, you have to make a decision to keep moving forward with life, as with any other ‘loss’. The loss I’m referring to in this sense, is not necessarily a loss of like death, but a loss of a connection. They are similar, but not the same. This loss is a loss of feeling, connection, a routine, a pattern, and normalcy to a certain extent. The difference between this and death is, nothing is physically buried (unless you chose to ditch the belongings of that person), and it’s going to be okay and get better. Life has a unique way of giving us experiences that help us grow. Nothing is ever wasted!

Read that again: nothing is ever wasted. You see, God lets us go through things so we can one grow through them, but also remember that no matter what He is our source. God loves you more than any human can, and that’s something that you should never lose sight of! Everything that you experienced with that person is a building block, and it’s also something that you can use to add to the lost of the things that you do and don’t want to deal with in future relationships. Maybe you want to date casually or just wait for someone new altogether. Regardless of your choice, it all helps. Maybe the person you were with cheated on you, Yes you are, were, and may be hurt(ing), but sweetheart you are a child of the Most High God, and there’s nothing that He cannot mend! There is no pain that he cannot take away, and there is no perception that He cannot restore. 

Maybe things just didn’t work out between you and that person—that’s okay! God may be making room for someone better, someone more extraordinary than you can ever imagine. God knew you before you were even born. Which means, you were hand crafted by the Creator Himself — in HIS image. Do you know what that means? You are worth far more than rubies, diamonds, and gold! Your worth is priceless, and if you struggle with seeing yourself positively after parting romantic ways with someone, today should be the day that you cease all of that. When you see others out in public holding hands, if you don’t already, try not to get jealous or turn your nose. Instead, you say “that’ll be me one day, but for now I am healing”. Speak what you desire into existence, write it down, and pray over it. God hears your prayers, and remember — He can blow your mind with His answers. 

With or without a man, always know that you are beautiful, strong, deserving, worthy, and extraordinary. Always know that no man defines you, only God does. As soon as you get that engrained in you, I promise you that going through breakups will be a lot easier. You won’t feel like you’re going through that much of a loss, you’ll feel like you’re going through another change of experiences. Also, remember to take time for yourself. Heal and fully heal. If you felt like you lost a part of you, cast that lie out. Take yourself on dates, spend time with family and friends, and do things that genuinely make you joyful. Happiness is temporary, while joy is forever. Only you know what truly makes you joyful, and you have to create that for yourself so that you will never be lacking in that area! Lastly, you have a forever friend in God. If you’re feeling lonely, you can call on Him and read the Bible and I promise you he’ll comfort you. Happy healing!